For help handling social mediaâs exposure, academic pressure and other student struggles, thereâs One Recovery
She hasnât had a drink since passing out in a bathroom stall during a football game.
On that Friday night in mid-September, she remembers partying at a classmateâs house, where she consumed one Red Bull and vodka after another.
For the record:
11:49 a.m. Nov. 27, 2024A previous version of this post misspelled One Recovery program founder Lynne Pedersenâs surname.
The student, who is not being identified because of her age, pulled out her phone to broadcast the good times on Snapchat. It was exhilarating to know that her followers would share in the fun.
Then she and her friends rode in an Uber car to the game. That was the last thing she remembered.
She has no recollection of an assistant principal calling for an ambulance to take her to a hospital from Orange Coast College, where the Battle of the Bay, an annual rivalry game between Newport Harbor and Corona del Mar high schools, was underway.
The next week, she and her parents were called to the administration office at Corona del Mar High School. The assistant principal at the time told her she had two options: suspension or enrolling in the eight-week One Recovery program.
The suspension could have cost her college admission.
She took the eight weeks. So did a dozen others found intoxicated at the game.
The program has been serving a generation in which academic pressure is rising, self-medicating is common, over-sharing is encouraged and self-worth is tethered to social media âlikes.â
Program founder Lynne Pedersen, who has served as executive director of Newport Academy, a residential adolescent treatment center, brought One Recovery to Corona del Mar High in 2015.
Students often are referred, but others attend voluntarily.
âWeâre all recovering from something,â Pedersen often says at One Recovery, which has reached students dealing with substance abuse, bullying and school performance pressures with art and human connection.
As part of the program, students meet weekly in The Sea King Connection, a small campus building where sessions begin with a quiet, meditative moment, a discussion where students share their experiences and feelings in confidence, and then conclude with a group activity involving art or a guest speaker.
I think thereâs an incredible pressure put on kids, and I think when you have that, it can be overwhelming and you look for a way to numb it.
— Jill Manly, head coach of the junior varsity girlsâ basketball team at Corona del Mar High School
Meanwhile, parents may simultaneously attend a meeting at the school library, where an open forum takes place with different facilitators, local clinicians and Oneâs parent coordinator, Stacia Deiro.
Don Grant, chairman of the American Psychological Assn. Device Management Committee, has attended several One meetings as a guest speaker.
âThis is a generation that is underdeveloped and overexposed,â Grant said. âYou can create a life that looks so spectacular [on social media], and that can make me evaluate my own life and feel bad. But what Lynne is doing on her own dime is creating an amazing, beautiful community for kids to be a part of, and thatâs not going to happen on Instagram.â
The academic pressure to perform in Newport Beach, where admission to a well-regarded college is the expectation, is apparent online, where often only successes are flaunted.
âThereâs so many eyes on them, especially with social media ⌠it emotes that you canât fail in privacy anymore,â CdMâs former assistant principal, Daniel Patterson, said in an interview last year. âEither you admit that you failed or you pretend that you didnât, which can lead to negative outcomes.â
The student interviewed for this article said One played a part in helping her stop taking Xanax, a habit she developed her freshman year to ease her public-speaking anxieties.
She remembered the red face and shaking hands she had during a previous speech she had given. On Xanax, which she obtained over the phone without a prescription, she hadnât broken a sweat.
âI thought about all the upcoming presentations I would have to do,â she said. âAfter I had used it, I thought, âIâm going to get more.â â
Another student who voluntarily attends One said itâs a normal occurrence to see her peers holding red cups filled with alcohol or vaping on social media.
âYouâll hear things like, âIf it wasnât on Snapchat, did it even happen?â â said the student, who also is not being identified because of her age. âKids will never use social media to share the bad things going on in their lives. But at One, you can share that maybe you got a bad grade on a test or your parents are getting divorced and everyone there will support you.â
Pedersen brings in guest speakers who have overcome their own substance addictions, which the second student said is more effective than being âslammed by numbers and factsâ on the dangers of drugs and alcohol.
âIâm all about abstinence from any self-harm behaviors,â Pedersen said. âBut what I also have to do realistically is meet the kids where they are and offer them the power of awareness and the power of choice.â
The Newport-Mesa Unified School District, which includes CdM, and One Recovery have agreed to expand the program districtwide. One Recovery also has set up shop at Ensign Intermediate School in Newport Beach and held several events at Newport Harbor High School.
âNever in my 33 years of working mental health have I seen a school with [a principal like] Kathy Scott and a school district that has stood in more for these kids,â Pedersen said of the CdM principal. âThey want to get these kids help, and thatâs important.â
Pedersen funded One after selling her house in Sierra Madre, where she and her former husband had handpicked the fireplace stones.
Deiro, who previously worked with Pedersen at Newport Academy, asked if Pedersen could introduce the program to CdM.
Since then, the CdM Foundation, PTA and individual parents have donated to One at events and online at 1recovery.com.
Jill Manly, head coach of the junior varsity girlsâ basketball team at CdM, and her husband, John, have contributed.
âIâve lived here so long and Iâve gotten to know how great the families are,â Jill Manly said. âBut when something is unpleasant, people donât want to talk about it, and thatâs the one thing that hurts a community ... the shame.â
âI think thereâs an incredible pressure put on kids, and I think when you have that, it can be overwhelming and you look for a way to numb it,â she added. âWhat One is doing is saying, âLetâs talk about itâ and taking away that feeling of shame.â
At a One Recovery meeting in April, students came ready to paint on blank canvases.
But before they picked up the brushes, they told the group how they were feeling.
âDrained.â
âHappy.â
âTired.â
âDoing better.â
âIâve been having a bad day.â
âSo whatâd you do about it?â Pedersen asked.
The student looked around the room and said, âI came here.â
Twitter: @AlexandraChan10
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