For Vietnam Vet Barry Huntoon, a Never-Ending Story

PARADISE, Calif. â€”  A television glows in the dimly lit living room of the Huntoon household, and 15-year-old Tran Thi Tuyet Mai watches transfixed as a daytime soap opera plays out a typical story line: agony and ecstasy, hope and sorrow, tears and laughter.

Every so often, Barry Huntoon glances at the screen, but he cannot focus on the dialogue. He is too consumed by his family’s real-life drama, the one in which he may or may not be Mai’s father.

Huntoon Convinced

Just four months ago, it seemed there would be at least one happy ending to a war that had meant so much sorrow for so many. After seeing Mai’s photograph in Life magazine and noticing an uncanny resemblance to himself, Vietnam veteran Huntoon was convinced that he had located the Amerasian child he fathered in 1972 and had almost given up hope of finding.

His obsessive search, her miserable childhood, their touching reunion and nightmarish trip through a morass of international red tape, followed by their new life together in this small central Californian town, made news worldwide.

Mai moved in with Huntoon, his wife, Laura, and their three children, discovering spaghetti and American slang. NBC planned a TV movie. “It’s like she’s always been my daughter,� Huntoon exulted. What no one expected was that the story would have a sequel.

Two weeks ago, the State Department informed Huntoon that, after repeated interrogations, a Vietnamese woman claiming to be Mai’s mother had denied that Huntoon was the child’s father.

The disclosure, the 36-year-old salesman said, was more than just a shock. “I don’t accept it. No, I really don’t,� he said, giving his first interview since being told. “There are too many things that point the other way.

“Nevertheless, I am in a real dilemma.�

He denied reports that he knew all along he wasn’t Mai’s father. Or that U. S. officials were considering charging him with assisting in a fraudulent entry into the country. Or that he misled journalists to clinch a big-bucks Hollywood deal. “We have sacrificed so much time and money,� he insisted, “that if anybody would do this to get a movie, he should be put in a psychiatric ward someplace.�

Bruce Burns, the San Jose attorney who was instrumental in helping Huntoon find Mai, said he’d had a premonition something else lay ahead. “I guess I felt in the back of my mind that just bringing Tuyet Mai to the United States would not be the end,� Burns said.

“It’s like the never-ending story,� he added--one in which there are questions Huntoon still can’t answer.

Painful Questions

If Mai is his daughter, how can he prove it? If she isn’t, what should he do? Should he undertake another emotionally and financially draining search? Or does he put the war behind him and accept Mai as a substitute for the offspring he’ll never know?

“Oh, don’t ask me those questions,� Huntoon beseeched, his voice hoarse with emotion. “Just don’t.�

It is mid-afternoon Friday, and the household is strangely silent. Laura Huntoon has taken her three children into town for lunch, and Barry Huntoon is baby-sitting Mai. Scattered around the rooms and sticking out from under the sofas are Cabbage Patch dolls and glow-in-the-dark Hula Hoops. But Mai is interested only in the TV. “She’s a typical teen-ager,� Huntoon complains like a typical parent. “She’ll watch TV even when the sound’s not on.�

Unshaven and disheveled, Huntoon seems trapped in emotional quicksand. A fleeting air of calm comes over him when he gazes lovingly at Mai. “The thing is,� he says, “ever since we got together, even since I gave her a hug, I knew she was mine. There’s no question in my heart. Zero.

“And if you ask her there’s no question, either. We both felt a tremendous bond.�

Supporting Evidence

Huntoon goes through a mental list of the evidence. First, Mai was the correct age. Huntoon, who had been forced to leave Vietnam without his pregnant girlfriend, Tran Thi Tuyet Nhung, knew that his child would be 15. Mai’s name was similar to Nhung’s. She was found selling peanuts in the same seaside town, Vung Tau, where Huntoon and his girlfriend had lived.

“See this building in the background?� Huntoon says, holding up one of the Life pictures. “I slept in this building when I was in Vietnam. It’s on the same beach I was on when I first went to Vung Tau.�

When a local family found Mai, they sent word that her mother was dead and that she was being cared for by another Vietnamese woman. “I didn’t know who this lady was,� Huntoon explains, “but the fact that I also heard that Nhung had died led me to believe that maybe this was the child. I had to go with what I had.�

Later, a French television crew discovered that the woman taking care of Mai claimed to be Nhung, “even showing where we had lived,� Huntoon says. “But the (French) video was terrible, and so, looking at her, I didn’t think that she was Nhung.�

His friends, he recalls, found a similarity in the woman’s facial features and bone structure. People change, they argued, and who knows what she’d gone through?

He even received a letter from her. “In no way did she say that I was not the father,� Huntoon says.

‘If It’s Not Nhung ...’

Huntoon was so eager to get Mai out of Vietnam that it didn’t seem to matter. He told himself: “If it’s not Nhung, then maybe it’s someone who is taking care of this girl because Nhung died in childbirth. It could be an aunt. It could be a sister.�

It didn’t matter. “All I cared about was doing whatever it would take just to bring my daughter out.�

On Oct. 12, Huntoon walked into Tan Son Nhut Airport in Ho Chi Minh City (formerly Saigon) and saw Mai for the first time. He also saw the woman.

“My first reaction is, ‘No, she’s not Nhung.’ But when I started talking to her, she just seemed very, very afraid of answering questions in front of an audience of security people. And so I was afraid for her, too.�

Huntoon took Mai out of the country that same day and set into motion the woman’s eventual emigration. About whether the woman was Nhung, he maintains, “I don’t think a soul ever asked me.�

He bristles at suggestions that he already knew Mai wasn’t his child. For one thing, he says, “I wouldn’t have brought her out. What would be the point? And I know what my wife would have done. She would have hit me with a frying pan.�

In December, the woman was interviewed in Thailand by U.S. officials. Over a period of weeks, she insisted she was Nhung. “But when they interrogated her again last month, they told her that she would never see Mai again unless she told them who she was,� Huntoon says. “That’s when she said I was not the father.�

She identified herself as Tranh Thi Ba and said she was Mai’s real mother. She said she had known Mai’s U. S. father only a short time.

Shock and Disbelief

When U. S. officials called California with the news, Huntoon’s reaction was shock followed by disbelief. “And then I was angry that Mai would have to learn about it in this way.�

All the struggles to get Mai out of Vietnam seemed easy by comparison to telling her the news. “We sat down with Mai and an interpreter right here on the carpet,� he says, pointing to the floor. “Mai broke up and sobbed and sobbed and sobbed and sobbed. I just held her.�

Mai asked the interpreter, “What does this mean? Now I don’t have a mother or a father? Who am I?�

She remembered how everybody had said she looked just like Huntoon--the same hazel eyes, same pointed chin, same over-sized hands. “Why would I look like him,� she asked, “if he is not my father?�

She and her “mother� didn’t get along; their relationship had long been tense, she said. The only real love she’d known had been her father’s. No matter what Ba says, Mai told a packed press conference last week, “I will only accept that Barry is my father.�

Huntoon still clings to the belief that Mai is his natural daughter. “I get into big arguments with Laura about it,� he acknowledges. “The whole point is I love her. And she’s my daughter in my heart if not biologically.�

As for a paternity test, he asks: “What’s the point?�

He pauses, trying to quell another surge of emotion. He knows what the next question will be: Will he look for his real child again?

“You’re asking me that question again,� he warns. “I had somebody ask me that on Thursday, and I said, ‘No comment at this time.’ �

But he knows exactly how he feels about having rescued Mai from the life of cruelty most Amerasian children lead in Vietnam. And he hopes that U.S. and Vietnamese officials will not use his case “as an excuse� for delaying their release.

“Obviously, if you were to ask me would I do this over again, the answer is yes. Yes ,� he says. “I would do it over a thousand times, if that’s what it took.�

Symbol of Hope

To him, Mai is more than just a daughter: She is a symbol of hope for all veterans like himself who left a child behind in Vietnam.

“Speaking from a veteran’s standpoint, I kind of share a responsibility for all the children,� he says. “It’s like being a surrogate father.�

A smile lights up Huntoon’s face.

“I’m really happy. I’m really happy that it turned out the way it did,� he says. “The thing is I’ve got a wonderful child in my home that I can help and I can love. And it’s kind of a healing process.�

He’s ready to hear that question now. And to answer it.

“All right,� he says. “I will continue to look at all Amerasian children with tremendous love in my heart. And I’ll try to do what I can, where I can, to find my child.

“But it’s not going to be the obsession it once was.�

The story, then, is over. For now.